Wednesday, June 17, 2009

Let the Man Feel

Last night I watched the movie, "Taken". (Excellent movie if you like action!) The story is about a man who retired from his career as a spy to repair his relationship with his 17 year old daughter. Unfortunately, his efforts are not appreciated by his ex-wife and her new husband, and they seem to want nothing to do with him. His daughter is really too young to know what he's given up in order to be closer to her. The daughter goes to Paris for a vacation with another young girl, and they are abducted. Her father goes to Paris to get her back, using every weapon in his spy arsenal. He saves the daughter from imminent doom and flies her back home. The ex-wife realizes that the very career that broke down their marriage saved their daughter's life. The new husband realizes that he is not such a bad guy after all.

Does every man have a deep desire to be appreciated? Women often pass men off as being independent from pesky emotions, but I don't think this is true at all. And when men do something wrong or misguided, they are sometimes labelled as deadbeat dads, unresponsive husbands or worse. The truth is, there could have been many issues and feelings gathering beneath a seemingly calm surface. I think that because men aren't as aware of their emotions, they have trouble understanding them. We the women need to school these men on what it is to feel.

If you are a woman, I have some advice: The next time your man seems unresponsive, distant or cranky, ask him if everything is okay. Look back on the past week and ask yourself if you've been there for him. It doesn't take a lot to make a man happy, but being aware that he can feel unappreciated or neglected can really help get past any difficult moments.

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